You only need one rule in life for happiness.

Stop pretending the situation could have been any different.

Any situation is a starting point. The question is: where you want to go from here?

In any situation, you may feel like what you wanted and what you got, are miles apart. However, staying in the thought of “why is this happening to me? “ for too long, will keep you in a state of feeling like the victim. This will take away the power of all the opportunities in that situation.

Maybe you could use some help, but don’t blame someone for not showing up as your superhero. The people who love you will support you. Sometimes before you had any chance of asking. Sometimes you will have to ask for their help more explicitly. But always leave the option open for them to choose not to help you. If you expect someone to help you, you take away the power of “help “. If someone feels they have to help, they will feel there is an imbalance in the effort balance. They did something for you, but they didn’t want to really.

Don’t make someone responsible for your situation. Because you are handing out power to your experience. Once you choose the victim role, any situation will make someone else into a perpetrator. That’s not really fair, because you chose the role of someone else without communicating expectations and responsibilities.