Being happy is easy. Accepting you deserve happiness is hard.
Please don’t listen to the story in your head. Create it.
Whatever your current situation, it’s not always easy. At some point, you will feel disappointed for what happened.
Those situations are either tragic, a story we tell yourself, or a bad situation you can turn around. Ask yourself this: “How am I involved in this? Why do I care about this?” Often we want something for someone else. But you can’t help someone who isn’t ready to accept your help.
Say, “I love you, how can I help.”
If this person is not ready to accept your help, tell them the offer still stands. By trying to convince them, you’ll only lose energy. You will need this energy when they are ready.
If the situation is about you, ask yourself this: “What role am I giving myself? Accuser, savior, perpetrator, or victim?” What we are looking for in every situation is a ‘balance of roles.’ Nobody can harm you without you feeling harmed, except for physical harm, ofcourse. Our view on a situation makes us believe we are the victim in most cases. But mostly, we aren’t.
